Got baffled by the title?? But yes, this is a fact. Your kids are watching you day and night. You may call your child ten times, your kid may not respond and may seem engrossed in something. But you start talking with your husband or with your friend and you will find that their antenna is always directed towards you. If you are talking about the kids then they will not miss even a single word.
You try to sit comfortably and discuss something with your husband and I am ready to bet if your kid doesn’t come running towards you and occupy space between you and your husband.
Once my kid was spending his vacation with his grandparents. After couple of days I received a call from my mother in law (MIL) asking whether we had a fight regarding who should clean the kitchen platform in the night. I was more embarrassed than surprised by this question. She narrated the afternoon’s incident. That day the kids were playing “Mummy Daddy” game. My kid was acting as the Daddy and our neighbour’s daughter was acting as the Mummy. During this role play the Daddy asked Mummy to clean the kitchen platform and the Mummy readily agreed. Now the little Daddy gave instructions to the Mummy, “Hey how come you readily agreed to clean kitchen platform?? You should say that it’s your turn to do it today and fight” My wizened MIL had guessed what must have happened and had called me. Plus I got a free advice that we should not fight in front of the kiddo. All I remember is my kid was engrossed in watching cartoons in other room when we were fighting. I am sure even you would have experienced similar thing.
I remember when I was a kid my mother used to have her college in the early morning (she was a teacher). She used to finish cooking and other chores before her college. She used to be in great hurry. If we sisters wouldn’t follow discipline she used to scold us. She used to get delayed. But I used to feel what’s there to scold us for such a small thing. When I would grow up I wouldn’t lose my temper by such a small thing. But alas! That’s not the case. When placed in similar circumstances unknowingly my reactions are exactly same as my mother and not what I always envisaged.
In my office it was normal for people to distribute chocolates on their birthdays. All the kids love chocolates. So did my kiddo. So used to bring those chocolates home and share with my kiddo. After few days I realised whenever kids used to distribute chocolates in his school he started bringing them home. He used open then only after I came home. Or when he used to fall sick I used to check his temperature after every 2-3 hours. Now when I fall sick he does the same without anyone telling him anything!
Jokes apart, but parents we are seriously being watched 24*7. Our kids are going to immitate us in similar circumstances. Our advices may not work. Actions speak louder than words. Kids learn more by watching our behavior than what we tell them. We are the role model to our kids. I would like to conclude by saying be the man you want your child to become!