In last 2 blogs we learnt the reasons behind my son’s acts in the school which made teacher believe that he had access to adult content. I had started breathing easy as my son had been innocent in two out of three incidents. The third incident where my son had licked other boy’s hands was little worrisome. We were not able to understand the logic behind it. And this is where even we had doubts. So we continued with our conversation.
Me: By the way tell me why you were licking hands of Ajay??
Son: Daddy taught me.
Me: Daddy taught you?? (My eyes widened in a shock.) Now from where Daddy has come into the picture??
Son: I learnt it from Daddy and I was trying to teach Ajay..
I was aghast to hear this. I almost shouted
Me: What?? Daddy taught you to lick the hands of other people??
Son: Yes. Arre Mamma, that day Daddy was teaching me the trick. He said it was kind of defense technique. If someone grabs you from behind and puts his hands on your mouth so that you cannot shout then Daddy told me to use this trick. You have to simply stick out your tongue. The other person holding you will immediately remove his hand from your mouth or loosen the grip. I showed Ajay the trick. He wanted to learn it. He wanted to use it on me.
My goodness!! I could never have imagined this. So this was the licking business! I heaved a big sigh. Suddenly the world looked brighter.
Thank God!! We bothered to talk to our son calmly rather than shouting. It was most comforting to know that afterall our son didn’t have access to adult content. Finally we were ready for the meeting with teacher.
When our meeting began the tone of the teacher was little accusatory. She asked us did we really know what our son was doing behind our back. Indeed we did know. We appraised her about the background of all incidents one by one. Now it was her turn to get flabbergasted. She was speechless for some time. She couldn’t believe that there was such simple reasoning possible apart from access to adult content.
At the end the teacher apologized. We appreciated the fact that his teacher was vigilant about the behavioral aspect of kids along with curriculum. However, she had tried to link non related incidents, she had thought like an adult and drawn conclusions. The kid had thought like a kid and acted like one. I wouldn’t blame her. Now she knew the truth.
In my earlier blogs also I tried to stress on aspects about difference in the way adults think and children think. We need to recognize this difference. By the time we become parents our mind is already conditioned by society, social norms and adult behavior. Whereas the kids behavior is impulsive and free from social dogma.
Friends, when dealing with kids try to step into the shoes of kids and then try to analyze the situation. Most importantly have faith in your kid but be cautious at the same time!! Try to have meaningful dialogue. Majority of the problems can be solved by assertive and positive conversations. That’s the secret of having healthy relationship with the ultra modern kids!!
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