Curious kids or parents at test 😲 -Part 16 (Does your kid have access to adult content?? – Part 2)

In my last blog we read about my son’s teacher expressing her doubts regarding my son having access to adult content. We decided to have a dialogue with our son. Read on to know what happened next. We started with episode of my son shouting “I love you” in the class.

Me: Do you know dear today I received a phone call from your teacher.

Son: How come Mamma? Today I really behaved well. I didn’t trouble any of the teachers.

Me: Yes, I know that. Today she had called for something else. She mentioned that you shouted “I love you Kiyara” in front of whole class.

Son: Yes. But that was not today. 

Me: May be. But why did you shout like that in the first place?

Son: Because she is a nice girl and I like to play with her. Why what happened?

Clearly my son had not understood the gravity of this issue. He was talking very innocetly.

Me: You like to play with her. But it doesn’t mean that you can shout “I love you”

Son: Why not?? If Nobita can tell Shizuka then I can also tell Kiyara…

Clearly we could see that all this shouting business was inspired by his favorite cartoon “Doremon”. Normally before allowing my son to watch any program I used the watch couple of episodes along with him and used to permit him if and only if that show was appropriate. I had already banned couple of cartoons. But I had never imagined that apparently harmless cartoon could inspire such an action in my son. We had found the source of first complaint at least.

We had to tell our son that even if he liked playing with some girl shouting “I love you” in the class is not considered good and advised him not to repeat this behavior. 

We also told him that there is difference in Indian culture and Western culture. So even if it ok in Western culture it is not really ok in our culture. God knows how much he understood but he was at least receptive when we were taking. Thankfully he has not repeated this stunt till date. 

Banning the cartoon completely was not option. Post this fiasco we encouraged him more to watch channels like National Geographic, BBC Earth etc. Sometimes we used to watch cartoons along with him and tell him what was appropriate and what was not!!

We were relieved that at least the first incident had absolutely nothing to do with the adult content. But what about the second incident??

Curious kids or parents at test 😲-Part 15 ( Does your kid have access to adult content??-Part 1)

Since my son had entered primary school, I had started dreading the calls from his school. Typically I used to get complaints from various teachers that he disturbs the class. One day when I saw a call from his school number I wondered what he had done that day. His class teacher had called and asked me, “Ma’am, you are working mother right?” I answered affirmatively. She said, “Do you know probably your son has access to adult content?” I was mentally prepared to hear any complaint but this. How could it be? I was speechless for few moments. If it was really true it was definitely a matter of concern for us. My son was only 6 years old. Finally I mustered the courage and asked her, “Could you please tell me exactly what makes you think that he access to adult content?” She narrated the following 3 incidents which had taken place in last couple of months:  

  1. He had shouted “I love you” in the class to one girl
  2. One boy had complained that my son was trying to kiss him
  3. One boy had complained that my son had licked his hand and he was not letting that other boy to lick his own hands.

The teacher had sought face to face meeting with both the parents. I was flabbergasted to hear all these incidents. I was very restless. I called up my husband and informed him about the whole thing. Even he was clueless. We had to talk to our son. It was a delicate job. We needed to get the answers but at the same time it was necessary to remain neutral and understand our son’s take on it. Afterall he was our son and we didn’t want him to lose his faith in his own parents.

I was not able to imagine if at all he was getting access to adult content then how and where he was getting it. He was not in a professional day care where there would be other kids and seniors. He was in charge of elderly couple and their daughter in law. We had known them for years. They had never given him access to computer or mobile. They were very vigilant. At home he had access to laptop as well as mobile. But it was under our supervision only. We didn’t have any books or CDs or anything with adult content.

Then how was he getting access?? How indeed?? My head had started spinning and I was not able to concentrate on anything in office. All these years when my kiddo was asking me all awkward questions I had never felt restless like this. For the first time I was dreading conversation with my own kid. I was really afraid of what answers I would receive. 

Me and my husband were quite  sure that our son was not having access to adult content. But then what about those incidents which his teacher had reported. Follow my next blog to get answers to the above riddles. (To be continued)

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प्रणव

प्रणव

लिहीतोय चार ओळी आज काय काय सांगू सर्वानां प्रणवबद्दल;

चूकुन देखील केलं कोणी त्याला GK मधे चॅलेंज तर बरोबर जीरवतो तो त्यांची अद्दल,

असतो सदैव हसतमुख आणि म्हणतो मी आहे थोडासा इंट्रोवर्ट;

लगेच सफाईला लागतो जर का दिसली घरात त्याला थोडीशी जरी डर्ट,

अथक परिश्रम आणि कष्ट करून मिळवले त्याने उत्तमोत्तम काॅलेज;

सदैव वाचन करून विसरत नाही तो अपडेट ठेवायला त्याचं जनरल नाॅलेज,

कामाच्या गडबडीत इच्छा असुनही नाही जमत त्याला करायला घरातील धूणी आणि भांडी;

असाच गुटगुटित दिसावा म्हणून अश्विनी रोज देते त्याला खायला चार उकडलेली अंडी,

खात्री आहे आम्हा सर्वांनां अश्विनिच्या जोडीने गाठेल तो आयुष्यात खूप मोठा टप्पा;

म्हणतो कसा चैन पडत नाही जर का नाही मारल्या दिवसातून एकदातरी अश्विनिशी फोनवर गप्पा,

क्रिकेट खेळतो तो उत्तम असतो नेहमीच मॅन ॲाफ मॅच;

शांत चित्त्ताने आणि हसत मुखाने नक्कीच पार करेल तो जीवनातील सर्वच बॅड पॅच,

सदैव शांत असतो म्हणून चुकूनही पाहू नका त्याच्या सहनशीलतेचा अंत;

कृपा असो महाराजांची कधीच राहू नये त्याच्या मनांत कुठलीही खंत,

जीवनातील त्याच्या यशात आहे आई बाबांचा सिंहाचा वाटा;

स्कील आहे त्याच्याकडे हळुवार प्रेमाने काढतो तो सर्व शत्रुंचा काटा,

त्याचं संयमीत वागणं बघून येतो एका मॅचूअ्रड माणसाचा फील;

छान वाटतं जेंव्हा म्हणतोदादा मी देतो हाॅटेल मधे सर्वांचं बील”,

देव करो असाच सदैव झळकत राहो आमच्या कुटुंबातील हा चमकतां तारा;

पहाचं तुम्ही ज्युनियर प्रणवच्या आगमनाने सर्वत्र बरसतील मोठ्या मोठ्या गारा

Japanese greetings

日本語RomajiEnglish meaning
ありがとうございますArigatou gozaimasuThank you
どういたしましてDou itashimashiteMention not
おめでとうございますOmedeto gozaimasuCongratulations
おはようございますOhayo gozaimasuGood morning
こんにちはKonnichiwaHello / Good afternoon
こんばんはKonbanwaGood evening
おやすみなさいOyasuminasaiGood night
もしもしMoshi moshiHello (on phone)
お名前は何ですかO namaewa nan desukaWhat is your name?
私は__ですWatashiwa ___ desuI am ____
お元気ですかOgenki desukaHow are you?
元気ですGenki desuI am fine
只今TadaimaI am just back home
いらっしゃいませIrasshaimaseWelcome (home, shop, hotel etc.)
行ってきますItte kimasuI will go and come back
いってらっしゃいItterasshaiYes please / bon voyage
ようこそYoukosoWelcome
いただきますItadakimasuI will have it
乾杯KanpaiCheers 🍻
ごちそうさまでしたGochisou sama deshitaThank you for treating me
失礼しますShitsurei shimasuWhile entering senior’s cabin / Excuse me
お大事にOdaijiniGet well soon
よいお年をお迎えくださいYoi otoshi o omukae kudasaiHappy new year (till 31st Dec)
明けましておめでとうございますAkemashite omedetou gozaimasuHappy new year (from 1st Jan)
では又Dewa mataSee you soon
さようならSayounaraBye

Come closer to Japanese people by greeting them in their language 😃

Curious kids Or parents at test 😲 -Part 14 (Social acceptance norms & Measurements on Daru ki bottle)

Now my son had entered preliminary school. He was known to be very talkative and naughty kid. One day I received a call from his school. His teacher told me that he disturbed the class. He intentially gives attention seeking answers. I aksed her what was the matter. She narrated the following incident.

She was  a Maths teacher. She was teaching the class about units of measurement. While teaching she had asked the class if they had ever noticed the measurements like 1 kg, 500 grams or 1 litre written on certain packed items. My son had promptly replied, “Yes, on “Daru ki bottle”. After this answer there was ruckus in the class. Kids started laughing, clapping and lot of time had lost in bringing the class under control. I assured the teacher that I would speak to my son.

I was also surprised by this answer. Of all things “Daru ki bottle” was a bit too much. All of us are teetotalers.  Even most of our acquaintances are likewise. I don’t even remember going to any party with my kid where alcohol was served. I spoke to my husband. Even he seemed clueless. It appeared that we would have to speak to our son directly to know the secret. We had to be very careful. In the evening I asked him casually.

Me: These days whats up at school? What new topic are they teaching these days?

After couple of other topics he reached “Units of Measurement” I immediately caught the thread. And asked him where all he had seen measurements written?? He mentioned couple of items and then mentioned “Daru ki bottle”

Me: Daru ki bottle? Where have you seen “Daru ki bottle”? We don’t consume it.

Son: Arre Mamma, yesterday I was coming home with Daddy from day care. On the road I stumbled upon Daru ki bottle. So when teacher asked where you had seen measurements before I remembered that bottle.

Me: Oh! It’s ok. But how did you know that it was indeed a “Daru ki bottle”?

Son: Because of it’s shape.

He traced the peculiar shape of liquor bottles in the air.

Me: How do you know that Daru ki bottle has this peculiar shape??

Son: Teachers!

Me: Teachers?? What do you mean by teachers?? Teacher told you it is liquor bottle??

Son: No Mamma, hoarding! It’s the hoarding!!

Me: Will you please tell me what are you blabbering??

Son: There is that big hoarding on way to school, you remember?

Me: Yes, what of that?

Son: Mamma, that hoarding has big ad of Teacher’s!!

Finally it dawned on me. The hoarding had big advertisement of famous liquor brand – Teacher’s Highland Cream. 

This is how my son had deduced bottle he had stumbled upon was “Daru ki bottle”. I was aghast.  After listening to this I had no heart of telling off my kid about the teacher’s complaint. I just decided to let go off the incident. When he will grow he will automatically understand the difference between what is socially acceptable and what is not!! Till then the answer that the measurement is written on “Daru ki bottle” holds good for me. What about you??

My limited point in this incident is don’t just get panicked by complaints from school. Nor scold the child without having meaningful dialogue. Have faith in your upbringing as well as have faith in your kid. Give him opportunity to explain himself. 

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आई

आम्हा सर्वांसाठी दादा आहेत विठूमाऊली आणि तु खरी रखुमाई;

छान शब्दच मिळत नव्हते जेंव्हा लिहायला बसलो चार ओळी आज तुझ्यासाठी आई,

लहानपणापासून जेवताना ताटात वाढलस आम्हांला तू भरपूर तूप;

आत्ता जमल्या चार ओळी जेंव्हा विचार मी केला तुझ्याविषयी खूप,

वाढदिवसाला देते तु आशिर्वाद म्हणून २००० ची नोट;

आयुष्यात नेहमीच खात्री केलीस तु राहू नये घरात कोणाचेही भूकेलं पोट,

रोज आंघोळ करून तुला नमस्कार करताना नसते आशिर्वादांची तुझ्याकडे कधीच कमी;

सईने हट्ट केला की तु ती पूर्ण करणार याची सदैव असते तीला नक्कीच हमी,

तुला वाटते भीती कुत्र्यांची असो तो राॅकी किंवा टाॅमी;

सर्व भाच्यांची सर्वात लाडकी आहेस तूच प्रेमामामी,

लहानपणी अभ्यास करताना तू कधीच नाही वापरलीस मारायला फूटपट्टी;

रोज तासनतास फोनवर बोलताना कळून येते तुझी आणि शैलाकाकूची गट्टी,

ॲक्सिडेंट झाल्यावर तू घातलंस त्याला आपल्या लहान मुलासारखं खायला खाऊ;

सुहासकाका नेहमीच वागतो जसाकाही तो आहे तुझाच लहान भाऊ,

आयुष्यात हे नाही किंवा ते नाही म्हणून तु कधीच नाही केलास कुठलाही कागा;

खूप कष्टाने नाजूकरीत्या सांभाळलास तू सर्व नात्यांमधला अचूकसां धागा,

कर्नाटकातून आलीस तू मराठी जरी नाही आलं तुला बोलतां तसं स्पष्ट;

खरोखरी घडवलंस आम्हां भावंडांच आयुष्य तू करून सदैव कष्ट,

तु कधीच नाही केलास कुणाबरोबर कुठलाही गनिमी कावा;

मी तुझ्यासाठी नेहमीच राहीलो तुझा गोंडस छावा( सिंहिणीचे पिल्लू),

तू नेहमीच रेडी असतेस सई बरोबर खेळायला असो कुठलाही गेम;

खात्री आहे मला तू कधीच कमी पडून देणार नाहीस अमच्यावर असणार तुझं प्रेम,

आयुष्यात दिलीस दादांना तू सदैव साथ बनून त्यांची सावली;

अर्पण करतो तुला आज या चार ओळी तूच आहेस माझी खरी गुरू माऊली…

निर्मलाआत्या

निर्मलाआत्या म्हणजे भावंडांमध्ये सर्वात लाडकी आमच्या अप्पांची;

रेखा(आत्या) आणि ती एकत्र आल्या की पर्वणी असते गप्पांची,

फळांमधे तीला आवडतात केळीं, चिक्कू आणि आंबा;

सदैव दिला तिने आम्हा भाच्यांच्या उच्च शिक्षणास पाठिंबा,

नातवंडांमधे आहेत सोहम आणि कबीर तिचे खुपच लाडके;

माहीत नाही का डाॅक्टर तीला सजेस्ट करतात खायला कार्ले आणि दोडके,

कसब्यातल्या गणपतीवर आहे तिची अपार भक्ती;

म्हणूनच की काय तोच तिला देत राहतो अपरंपार शक्ती,

कन्या शाळेला मिळाला तिच्या रूपात एक अप्रतीम प्रींसीपल;

आत्ता रोज खायला सांगीतलाय डाॅक्टरांनी तीला एक तरी ॲपल,

शाहूचौकातले विठोबा आहेत नेहमीच तिच्यासाठी फलदायक;

त्यांच्या प्रसादात मिळाला तीला परफेक्ट लाइफ पार्टनर विनायक(काका),

विनायक काका तीला म्हणत असतील “मिलेगा नहीं तुम्हें मेरे जैसा कोई दुबारा;

त्या दोघांना भेटून नक्कीच अनुभवाल तुम्ही प्रेमाचा वात्सल्यपुर्ण गाभारा,

आदर्श शिक्षिका असून तिच्यात दिसते साक्षात सरस्वतीचे रूप;

दोन्ही मुलींना सीए आणि डाॅक्टर करताना तिने कष्ट मात्र घेतले खूप,

आज या चार ओळींच्या रुपाने आम्ही सर्वजण देतो तिला भरपूर शुभेच्छा;

लवकरात लवकर तीची या डायलीसिस मधुन व्हावी सुटका हीच आहे आम्हा सर्व लेकरांची इच्छा…

Curious Kids or Parents at test😲- Part 13 (Let the child know why he is being admonished)

One day my kid came home in an irritated mood. He was very very angry with his Hindi teacher. I asked him patiently what was the matter. He told me that the Hindi teacher had scolded him for no reason in front of whole class. He started narrating.

Son: Today the teacher was teaching us a poem in Hindi class. It was about importance of time. While teaching she asked “पल पल इकठ्ठा हो कर क्या बन जाता है?” (What do moments in time add up to?)  

Me: Then??

Son: I answered “घंटा” (an hour). Then the other kids in the class started laughing and teacher scolded me in the class. Did I say anything wrong Mamma??

I could sense the righteous anger in his tone. I heaved a sigh. Technically speaking there was nothing wrong in his answer. The catch was that Marathi being his mother tongue he didn’t know the Hindi slang. Literally speaking घंटा in Hindi means an hour. But in slang the same word has a vulgar meaning. The kids who knew this meaning laughed and created ruckus in the class. The teacher who knew this slang had scolded him and my son who didn’t know this slang was totally clueless. I pacified my son. I had to tell him that there was absolutely nothing wrong in his answer. But at the same time I had to explain him the how the word was used in slang. In slang it either meant “nothing” or “penis”. The teacher had obviously thought that he had purposely used this double meaning word in class and had scolded him. After listening to this he was pacified to some extent but some glitch remained in his mind. 

In all this I appreciated the fact that the teacher was vigilant in the class and she had paid attention to the language kids were using. But one thing bothered me and it was that my son didn’t know why he was scolded. I decided to speak to his teacher. I made an appointment and met her. 

I narrated the full incident to her. She recollected it easily. Firstly, I appreciated her keen attention towards the kids. Then I told her that I had absolutely no problem in teachers reprimanding my son if he made mistakes or if he misbehaved. But at the same time I expressed my concern that the child did not know why he was reprimanded. If he did not know the reason for scolding he would not be able to amend his behavior and he would end up having a grudge against teacher. I requested her to ensure that the kid knows the reason when they are reprimanded. After listening the teacher also agreed with my view point.

Friends some times it happens with us also. We are adults and our thinking pattern is governed by social acceptance norms. But kids are more impulsive and may not understand our view. If admonishment or punishment is required then do so but let the kid know the reason. Else how the kid would understand where he went wrong or where he needs to improvise. 

Come to think of social acceptance norms I remember one more incident regarding measurements on liquor bottle. Let’s meet next week with a new story.

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आमची कॅंकून वारी

२०१९ हे वर्ष आम्हा सगळ्यांना एक्दम गडबडीचे आणि बऱ्याच बदलांचे होते. मुलींचे अरंगेत्रम , निहारिकाचे कॉलेज यामुळे हे वर्ष कधी सुरु झाले आणि सरले ते कळले पण नाही .म्हणून शेवटी क्रिसमस सुट्टीत कॅंकून ला जायचे ठरवले. मेक्सिकोच्या आग्नेय दिशेला कॅरिबियन समुद्र किनाऱ्यावर वसलेले हे गाव. एकदम आपल्या गोव्याची आठवण करून देणारे. आमची हे पहिलीच मॅक्सको बाजूची ट्रिप होती. मेक्सिको भौगोलिक साधारण भारतासारखे आहे, खूपशी झाडे आपल्याकडे असतात तीच. कण्हेर, तगर, तेरडा, बोगनवेल सदाफुली सगळीकडे बहरलेली. आकाशी नीलमणी समुद्र, नितळ निळे आकाश आणि पांढरी स्वच्छच मऊ वाळू. अजून काय पाहिजे सुट्टीसाठी ? पण आम्ही आता साधे नाही राहिले, बरच अमेरिकावासी झालो आहोत. ऑल इन्कलुसिव्ह रिसॉर्ट पण लागते हे सगळे अजून एन्जॉय करायला . या रिसॉर्ट मध्ये होती ८ रेस्टोरंटस, २ कॉफी शॉप्स, स्पा, ३ स्विमिन्ग पूल आणि पाहिजे ते बसल्या जागी आणून देणारा सेवकवर्ग 

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आमचे रिसॉर्ट ड्रीम्स रिव्हिएरा

हायड्रोथेरेपी स्पा

स्विमिन्ग पूल्स

लॉबी

खोली

या रिसॉर्ट मधले सगळ्यात पॉश रेस्टोरंट होते ते फ्रेंच. तिकडे आत जाण्यासाठी ड्रेस कोडे पण होता, पुरुषांचे कॉलर वाले शर्ट आणि पँट्स, शॉर्ट्स चालत नाहीत. बायकांचे ड्रेस किंवा पार्टी टॉप्स, जीन्स नाहीत, स्लीपर्स नाहीत वगैरे. आम्ही बाहेर मेनू पाहिला , एकमेव व्हेजिटेरिन डिश सलाड. पण तरी विचार केला एकदा जावेच. दोन तास बाहेर थांबल्यावर आत प्रवेश.

 एकदम सुंदर टेबले, छान म्युजिक , प्रशांत वातावरण

पण वेटर छान होता. तो म्हणाला तो व्हेज डिश अरेंज करेल. तिथले जेवण पाच कोर्स वाले.

पहिले आले अँपेटीझर. एका सुंदर प्लेटमध्ये अर्ध्या चेरी टोमॅटोवर,चीज आणि अर्धे द्राक्ष

दुसरा कोर्स सलाड. ४ पाने आणि ड्रेसिंगची सुंदर ओळ

तिसरा कोर्स बटाटा सूप. आख्खे तीन चमचे भरून होते ते.

मग मेन कोर्स . त्याचं वर्णन ५ ओली होते मेनू कार्ड मध्ये पण आली डिश ती मधल्या बोटाच्या लांबीची ग्रेप लीव्हज मधली गुंडाळी .

मग डेसर्ट २ घास (छोटे बरं )केक आणि २ घास आईस क्रिम

मग कळले कि फ्रेंच लोक इतके बारीक कसे राहतात ते. आम्ही आपले बाहेर आलो , खाली वर्ल्ड कॅफेला जाऊन पास्ता खाल्ला आणि मग पोट भरले .

दुसऱ्या दिवशी आम्ही गेलो शेल-हा या वॉटर पार्क आणि डॉल्फिन ऍडव्हेंचरला . आम्ही पाहिलेल्या सगळ्या पार्कपेक्षा एकदम वेगळी नैसर्गिक पार्क आहे ही . स्नॉर्केलिंग केले, मुलीनी क्लीफ डायविंग केले, प्रचंड मोठी वॉटर स्लाईड होती. पाण्याची गुहा पाहिली .

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मग पाळी होती डॉल्फिनची. . त्यांना शिकवलेले असते, त्यामुळे तुमच्या जवळ येतात, कसरती करतात, त्यांना टच केले तरी चालते. सुंदर फ्रेंडली प्राणी .

एक दिवस झिपलाइन पार्क केली. उंच उंच जायचे आणि १० वेगवेगळ्या स्पीड आणि अंतराच्या झिपला लटकून यायचे. खाली बघायची भीती वाटत होती पण मजा ही येत होती. सगळ्यात वेगळे होते ते झिप रोलर कोस्टर . तुम्हाला शेवट दिसत नाही आणि किती वरखाली आहे ते पण कळत नाही.

मेक्सिकोला पण भारतासारखा इतिहास आहे. खूप जुने पिरॅमिड्स आहेत, उत्खलन केलेली आहेत. आम्ही अशाच एका ठिकाणी गेलो होतो . कोबा नावाची जागा आहे. मायन लोकांनी देऊळ बांधली आहेत. त्यांची देवळे आपल्यासारखी नाहीत. पूर्ण सपाट जागी असल्यामुळे, त्यांना देऊळ म्हणजे टेकडी बांधावी लागायची. टेकडी म्हणजे देऊळ त्यांचे, आत गाभारा वगैरे नाही. दर बावन्न वर्षांनी त्याच देवळावर नवीन देऊळ बांधायचे. असे करत करत उंची वाढवत जायची देवळाची. वरती जायचे आणि निसर्ग देवतेला (वरुण , सुर्य ,अग्नी ) प्रार्थना आणि बाकी काही अर्पण करायचे. जवळ जवळ १२ माजली उंच देऊळ ते. चढलो पण उतरताना दोरी धरून बसून बसून उतरावे लागले.

मेक्सिको भागाचे अजून एक वैशिष्ठ म्हणजे सिनोटे. जमिनीखाली गुहा आणि त्याचे छप्पर पाहून एक भोक पडलेले आणि पाण्याने भरलेलं . मेक्सिको भाग पूर्ण चुनखडीच्या दगडाचा आहे. त्यामुळे जमीन मऊ म्हणून अशी सिंक-होल तयार होतात. पूर्वीच्या काळी हेच त्यांचे प्यायच्या पाण्याचे स्रोत होते. अजूनही मायन लोक तिकडे जाण्यापूर्वी पूजा करून जातात. आम्ही कधीही अनुभवले नव्हते अशा जागा आहेत त्या. ५० फूट रॅपलिंग करून दोरीला धरून खाली जायचे. अंधारी गुहा, पण मोठी, स्विमिन्ग करता येते. वटवाघुळे फिरत होती. वरच्या मॅन्ग्रोव्ह झाडांची मुळे लटकत होती . स्वच्छ पाणी, सगळा खालचा तळ दिसतो. तिकडे स्विमिन्ग करताना मजा आली.

सिनोटेचा दुसरा प्रकार म्हणजे पूर्ण जमिनीने घेरलेले पण मध्यभागी उघडे. तिकडेही एक दिवस स्विमिन्ग केले.

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प्लाया डी कार्मेन हे जवळचे अजून एक गाव. फाईव्ह स्टार तुळशी बागेसारखी दुकाने एका बाजूला आणि शॉपिंग मॉल्स दुसऱ्या बाजूला. शेवटी समुद्र किनारा. बोटींच्या स्वागतासाठी किनाऱ्यावर मोठी कमान होती.

जवळ जवळ सगळे फोटो आम्ही काढलेले आहेत, पण काही वेबसाईट वरून घेतले कारण आम्हाला काढायला परवानगी नव्हती.

Curious kids Or parents at test 😲 -Part 12 (Brassiere, Mamma's banyaan!!)

By now my kiddo had started reading books. He was growing and he was very observant. That’s why he used to get so many questions. Encyclepedia used to give many answers. But Mamma was the ultimate solution when it came to little odd questions. 

One night I found my kiddo in little thoughtful mood. He called me, “Mammaaaa….” I immediately went into attentive mode. He seemed little hesitant to ask question. Mamma’s sixth sense had already sensed that something odd or awkward was coming. I said, “Fire away your querry”

Kiddo: Mamma why you are fat in chest? Look at me and Daddy. We have such flat chests.

For a moment I felt little awkward. In my mind the reflex action was wrapping my hands around my chest and thinking why my kid asks me such questions. But my experience had taught me that any reaction which would suggest that there is something abnormal/ odd/ awkward about the question would surely invite some drama or some kind of mention in public. Kids are very adept at sensing this. They read our body language much better than our words. So without betraying my true emotion I answered.

Me: That’s because the body of man is little different than the body of a woman. Woman’s body is supposed to perform few different functions. So the shape is also little different. You only tell me who carries the baby in womb??

Son: Of course a woman.

Me: Then in that case only a woman will have womb and not man, right?

Son: Right!!

Me: The nature has designed bodies very carefully. All types of living creatures are bestowed with the instinct to provide food to babies till they grow. Now look at birds. Normally the mother bird remains with babies and father bird brings the food and and feed babies. Though in some species it may be little different. You remember the cat at Nani’s place who had given birth to kittens??

Son: Yes. 

Me: You remember how the kittens used to drink their Mamma’s milk??

Son: Yesss

Me: Same is the case with puppies. Mamma dog feeds the babies with her milk. Cow feeds calves with her milk. Normally all these animals feed their babies with their milk till the babies grow and they are capable of finding their own food.

Same is the case with humans. The Mamma feeds her baby with her milk.

Son: what?? Mammas can produce milk??

Me: Yes. That’s why women have milk glands in their breasts. Men do not have milk glands. That’s the reason why her chest shape is different than man’s chest.

Son: Did you also feed me with your milk?

Me: Yes.

Son: But then how come we have a photo of me drinking milk from bottle?

(Gosh! This boy is so observant!!)

Me: That’s because my milk was not sufficient to feed you. So first you used to drink my milk then I used to give you milk formula or cow milk.

Son: Mamma, even now you have milk??

Me: Nope. The nature has done its own magic. The milk production starts after baby’s birth. As the baby grows we start giving babies other foods like rice, kheer, fruits etc. Automatically the baby starts drinking lesser milk. Slowly the milk production stops.

My son was listening carefully. After all this conversation all he remarked was “Oh! That’s why your banyaan’s shape is so wierd…”

Afterall boys will be boys!!

My last word to my son was “By the way this kind of ladies banyaan is called as brassiere or simply bra.” He rolled his eyes and turned his face.

Friends, why we feel awkward about such questions is may be due to our shyness or culturally we are not used to discuss such topics. We are not taught to talk freely about body. Curiosity about the anatomy is very natural. So let’s talk about our bodies freely at least when kids demand information. Discretion is definitely required while talking to kids. But try to open up with kids and keep their question bank going!! As I said in my earlier blogs reiterating again let the kids come and ask you rather than depend on friends or Internet for answers!!

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